Learning- The Experiential

 

 

I have always been a fan of learning and gratitude. I always felt they go hand in hand. When I started my career, I chanced upon meeting one of the most dynamic trainers. Her name was Ms. Anjali Gopalan. She is the founder of an organization called Naz Foundation. She taught me what it takes to communicate and train effectively. She was honest and upfront and not complicated. Since I was fresh, to the field and training scenario per se, her impression stayed with me.

My first learning was, to learn, having a clean slate works. Going with preconceived notions reflects more badly on the learner than the trainer. But that was my challenge as an HR person, to make people see value in training.

I discussed the fear of rejection or fear of not knowing as a deterrent for learning. However, sometimes it’s also the notion of knowing too much or the ‘know-all’ factor. I also must have had my share of ‘know-all’ moments. I remember when I met my mentor and a very dear friend Liz Carter. Liz had been placed in our organization as a Volunteer consultant and I was put to be trained under her. Liz taught me everything, and I mean everything that I know about HR now. She helped me see value in what I was doing and made me the person I am today. But to say, it was not difficult would be an understatement. I was threatened by her presence which automatically led me to close myself a lot of time. She taught me the value of trust in creating a buy-in. My learning was not limited to just a professional set up.

My mother taught me strength and my sister taught me critical thinking (I owe all my writing to her). My mother in law made me see the value of tolerance and my colleague Sudha, made me a more accountable person.

My father taught me ownership and family values and Manish, my husband taught me objectivity and fairness. My friends also played a huge role in my learning. I learned how to be bindass from Jyotika and how to stand up for me from Ruchi.

My children Abhay, and Samya are my biggest teachers because they taught me to love myself as I am. Their unconditional love made it possible for me to become a better person.

I have so many people to thank when it comes to enriching my life. The list is endless. However, the crux is the same. Openness to learning comes with time and experience. The same experiences which can turn you bitter and closed also have the potential to make you see light and opportunity.

Choose Wisely!!