The cost of Freedom

  I grew up in an environment where my parents provided more than enough ‘freedom’. I also remember them being challenged for this. Our family as a whole made some bold choices for those days and I was proud of it. To say my parents did not pay the price for those choices would be an understatement but they were brave and never let it affect us.

Today I was discussing with a friend, a case of an employed help who was a victim of domestic violence. I have as part of the social sector, been witness to many women in similar circumstances not limited to underprivileged sections of society. The power to be free and choose to do so, sometimes are completely different. The role of class, education and means become secondary and only fear of the cost of freedom stays.

So what is this unknown we are scared off?

-         Venturing into unknown- People are normally afraid to know, what lies ahead? They would rather stick to the known and comfortable than venture out to test waters. And god forbids, if they do get burned, they immediately step back saying, we knew the world was a bad place. We are happy, where we are.

-         Responsibility for actions- To be free means to exercise the choice, and take responsibility for that. One no longer has someone else to blame for their problems.

-         Paying the price- I wish freedom was an easy trade but it isn’t. The cost of freedom can mean moving on, which sometime would also imply leaving behind things you love but have turned toxic. Close relationships, houses you were born in, a well-paying job, etc.

The point being, all these fears are legitimate but ultimately the choice remains. What does one want to do? The way I see it is if future or freedom looks challenging, follow these steps.

-         Take the next step- Freedom is a state of mind and that is what one has to strive for first before the big picture. It means creating a shift from it is not possible to it is possible. From disdain to home. The important thing will be to just take the next step to make yourself feel better. If you have lost your job, one needs to start by reaching out to friends, family, LinkedIn.

-         Give yourself time- Things do not change overnight so do not expect miracles. Be kind to yourself give yourself time.

-         Celebrate your victories- No matter how small they feel every achievement is a victory. Even the fact that you give yourself hope is a victory.

-         Reach out to people- Find your well-wishers and stay connected.

Freedom is a difficult choice to make, but with support and courage, a person can achieve it.