Self Awareness- Why we avoid it?

I love taking a personality test. MBTI, 16 PF, Neo Pi R, etc. When I was heading HR for an organization, I dreamed of opening an assessment centre in the organization. Even during my masters, I used to go to a website which had a lot of personality test. It would give me some result and I would feel excited. 

The question here is what did I do with so much information. Absolutely nothing. I knew I was learning a lot about myself. I was introverted, intuitive, empathetic, so on and so forth. It had absolutely no use for me. 

Sometimes this would make me feel good about myself, (introverted remember) and at others make me angry. I did not want to accept the result. It was a personality I did not want. 

I had told myself, I was a certain person for so many years and these tests based on certain questions made me change the way I think about myself? I reacted, rejected, and sometimes, just sometimes accepted. 

Soren Kierkegaard, Danish Philosopher had once said: 

“Therefore do not deceive yourself! Of all deceivers fear most yourself!” 

Why do we Reject?

We all live with a concept of ourselves. We know we have certain strengths and we are aware that we have certain weaknesses. All our lives we work on those weaknesses and are very happy with the progress and then one of these questionnaire comes in and reminds us of our weakness. We who have been working on them and have now a sense of achievement. When someone presents something that negates our sense of achievement it makes us feel inadequate. 

However it is always a good idea to look at it. Listening to it will always be a great option. 

1. Be Open - Listening to what is being said can start a new rapport. 
2. Seek feedback- seeking feedback only facilitates growth
3. Growth Mindset- Knowing what to accept and what to dismiss comes with a courage and time. Give yourself time but keep learning and keep moving.

To be conscious of the world outside and inside makes us deal with it patiently. So Be Aware!