Parenting is the hardest thing I have had to do. Quite recently I told someone, there was an alternative way in which they could have handled the situation with their child. She was visibly upset. Why because according to her, I wasn't dealing with her problem and it is easier for me to give 'Gyan'.
SHE WAS RIGHT.
I had no idea about what she was dealing with, I knew she is proud of her children and in that moment of vulnerability and my 'Gyan' wasn't really getting across to her.
Where does Self Awareness feature in this conversation?
Taking in a cue from yesterday's discussion-
I should have been more aware of my growing impatience and the need to be heard or give 'Gyan'. Listening to it more would have made it easier for her and me
- ascertaining whether she needed my 'Gyan'
- may be established an open communication where she was more receptive.
From her perspective, as soon as she realized and took a decision that she isn't going to like what I am going to say, she closed herself to new ways and techniques of approaching issues. Is this a pattern with her? Possibly, but based on my limited interaction it was hard to tell.
The discussion that ensued was more in terms of he said she said, leaving a bitter taste in everyone in the room.
'There were lot of ways in which I could have reacted or responded differently- I could have listened more, asked her to come up possible ways she could have dealt it or simply made her feel heard. That is all people need most of the time. It restores the confidence one has on oneself.
Relationships are based on trust and if a person feels that their vulnerability is misused or targetted even as a misunderstanding. It is important that we take a call to mend that.
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